Dearest Moms and Dads,
I see you! I hear you! I am one of you, and today I want to encourage you! This job that we have been given is not an easy one. In fact, out of all of the jobs that we have this one will always be the most important. Our children need our guidance and direction. They may think they know it all and have this life all figured out, but their arrogance will have them in ruins quickly if we don’t come alongside of them to help nurture and speak life. All around me this week I have seen signs of the struggles. Many of you are tempted to give up. Some of you have. Some of you are in the trenches right now trying to decide whether you are going to stay in the fight or raise the white flag and surrender. STAY THE COURSE! Do NOT give up!
PRAY for your children! They need protection and a covering over them that you can not provide, only God can. He’s the only one that can see their comings and their goings (Psalm 121:8). Ask Him to oversee and superintend their needs. He loves them more than you do and wants to see them on the narrow road that leads to LIFE (Matthew 7:13-14). When I got out of my car this week I saw this book sitting on a passenger seat in the car parked next to me. To this mom, YES! I see you! God sees you and He hears you! Keep praying and thank you for inspiring all of us to pray. We need to pray specifically too. They need to hold their thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5). Most of their battles take place in their mind. They don’t know how to discern the voice of truth verses the voice of lies. When they start to speak against themselves, stop them! Speak against the lie that has been planted. Teach them how to know their true identity. We are “God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved“!!! Wow! Then teach them to clothe themselves with “compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience” (Colossians 3:12). We have to be more than hearers of the word but also doers of it. Do more than just preach to them, show them what it looks like. Go and serve others together. There really is not a better way for them to learn than for them to experience!
This one is going to be the hardest to hear…DISCIPLINE your children. When they are defying you there needs to be a consequence!
“No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. But afterward there will be a PEACEFUL harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way.” Hebrews 12:11
Don’t ignore it. It won’t go away, in fact it will only grow to be a bigger problem. Don’t allow them to disrespect you. You have been given authority over them. Don’t waiver. But do not exasperate your children, instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:1-4). In order to do this, we have to be in His Holy word. If you don’t have a bible I encourage you to get one. Every thing that I am sharing with you today comes straight from it. These are not my rules or ideas of parenting but HIS! Let’s honor Him in raising these precious miracles in the way that pleases Him.
And finally I leave you with this, “Do NOT grow weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest IF we DO NOT GIVE UP.” Galatians 6:9
STAY THE COURSE SWEET FRIENDS!!! A harvest is coming!
Love from your sister in Christ,
Gen XOXOXO
I went on a walk last week alone. The morning was so new even the animals were still resting. It was dark, and the clouds hid the stars that helped light my way. I could hear my heart pounding inside of my chest as I took my first steps. I was scared, but I didn’t want to be. I began to have a conversation with The Lord. My question is why? Why am I afraid and what am I afraid of? As I continued to wrestle with this question I asked The Lord to be with me and help me not to fear. The next hour of my time with Him astounded me and what I learned was priceless truth that must be shared.
What about you? Do you wrestle with fear? What are you afraid of? Are you waiting to hear back from the doctor on some test results that keep you awake at night? Have you lost your job and you don’t know how you are going to provide for your family? Is your marriage struggling and you don’t want to lose it and face doing this world alone? Are your finances so broken that you don’t even know where to start in trying to fix them? Are you afraid of losing someone you love to death? I want you to hear the same words I heard whispered to me…It’s OKAY to be scared. Our God is BIGGER than our fear. He is in the battlefield with us. We do not fight alone. We do not walk alone. He is with us.
I have been so busy lately at work I have barely had time to look up. I move from one task to the next hoping to make a dent in the pile only to have more added. It is overwhelming. I got up from my desk to do some filing and on the way back I saw a heart shaped cut out in my melted scented wax cubes in my scentsy warmer. It took me by surprise and made me stop! I immediately felt God’s presence and His Spirit whisper “I love you, I see you, keep marching on.” There I was in the middle of my chaotic and hectic day having a moment with My Lord that took my breath away. I was so grateful he stopped me to remind me of this beautiful truth. Do you see Him? Does He ever stop you to help you see His presence right in the middle of the hard and difficult?
This week I had the pleasure of catching up with one of my dearest friends that lives in North Carolina. We were right in the middle of our visit with one another when she stops me and says, “Do you mind holding for a second I have to take a picture of this amazing sunset that I am seeing right now.” Again, we both stopped to SEE His Presence. This time I got to see Him thanks to the eyes of a beautiful friend. Isn’t that neat of Him? Sometimes when we can’t see He will help us to see through the eyes of another. That’s how faithful He is. He surrounds us with His love at all times. He gives us our loved ones to help hold us up and endure, persevere and overcome.
Happy 1st week of school from our family to yours. I hope that your transition into a new school year has been a smooth one, but in all honesty there has more than likely been a lot of anxiousness and fear surfacing with so much change. Why do we resist change so much? Why do we like for things to remain constant and unchanging? Over the past four years I have been in a place of change in my life. In the beginning I resisted the change and would grumble that I simply wanted things to be the same. I would even pray for Him to rescue my family from the trials, so we could go back to the way things were. We were never meant to remain the same. We are on a constant journey in growing closer and closer into the image of our Lord, the ONE and ONLY that remains the same yesterday, today and forever more (Hebrews 13:8).
My girls have been on this journey of change right along side of my husband and me. We moved to a new community two years ago. Everything and everyone was new. We had new jobs, new schools, new friends, new grocery stores, new gas stations, new everything. What we once knew as familiar and comfortable had changed, and we had the choice to embrace it or resist. The Lord has been so faithful to us and through His faithfulness He has shown us how to embrace the change. We have all grown closer to Him in the process. PRAISE THE LORD!
To my beautiful friend, Judi, I love you! I am so grateful that in His expansion of my territory He brought you into my life. Now, he is expanding yours. It’s time for you to spread your wings and fly. You are so loved and we are so happy for you. We know you are going to go and be a beacon of His light wherever you go! Be blessed as you have been a blessing. Your friend always, Gen
I was a Junior in High School when I tried out to be an Officer for the Drill Team. I can remember wanting the position so badly. I was a decent dancer. I had taken several years of dance lessons and practiced often. The day arrived and my nerves were shaken. Something that I had a passion for suddenly had me in a place where I felt frozen and unable to move. I had to do a solo in front of a panel of Judges. The day seemed like an eternity even though only a few hours had passed before the announcement was made. I didn’t make the cut. Tears still surface remembering who was there to hold me. My dad! He didn’t even say a word, he just held me and let me cry. Just this past weekend we were at my parents house and my dad had been working on a gift for Catherine for several weeks. He gave it to her as we were heading home to gear up for our week. The timing was perfect. The gift was perfect. A wooden cross with tennis balls representing Catherine’s passion with the hope of Christ. I felt so much LOVE coming from my dad to my little girl. It was just what she needed.
After remembering my own experience of heartache and brokenness I knew what she needed to hear. I sat down with her on her bed and told her my story. As tears fell from my eyes, I told her I would be there to hold her whether she makes the team or she doesn’t. Her worth is not found in being a Varsity Tennis player. She is a beautiful child of God deeply loved for who she is…not what she does. I think at times we can get so wrapped up into our performing that we lose sight of who we are and why we are here. I told her the most important thing to remember is to give your very BEST to HIM! He is in control and His perfect will, will be done. That is all He requires from us. He takes care of the rest. Did you know that I went on to dance in college? The Lord was still able to direct my steps to keep me dancing for Him. There is nothing too difficult for Him (Matthew 19:26).
I don’t like this person that I have been, and I want to transform back into the easy going, happy go lucky, full of joy and encouragement lady that I know and miss. I have kept my struggles to myself in hopes that I could fix them. It is not working, so this week I reached out to a dear sister and asked for her prayers for a specific situation that I was walking through. I just sent her a text message asking for her to pray. She instantly texted back and asked if I could talk. It was a rare time that I had the house to myself with no interruptions. I responded yes and within minutes we were on the phone together…just the sound of her voice brings me comfort. I was doing most of the talking and she was doing the listening. Her listening skills amazed me. At the end of our conversation, she asked if she could repeat to me some of the things she heard me say. She had been taking notes while I was talking. I grabbed a pen and paper and started writing down what she heard me say. Here are some of my own words: “I’m scared. I am angry. I have fear about this world we live in. It is causing me to be tense and rigid. I am trying to control everything. I want to be able to trust again.”
Wow! I was finally able to HEAR my problem. FEAR is robbing me of my joy. Over time my fear has caused me to stop trusting my God and take matters into my own hand (this is never a good idea guys…God is God and I am not). During my time with Him I was doing all of the talking, and when you are doing all of the talking there isn’t any time to listen. In a relationship the communication is supposed to go both ways. He was able to finally speak to me through my beautiful friend, and I am so grateful. Since this phone conversation there have been many tears shed and confessions made. I was able to come clean before Him. I love the verse that He led me to just yesterday. These words were written by David when he himself was struggling. “Create in me a pure heart, ‘O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the JOY of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.” Psalm 51:10-12 NIV
Did you realize that we are 1/2 way through this year? It’s going by so quickly. Summer is usually when I have time to get organized, clean closets, drawers, purge old things and make room for new things, but what are we doing to clean and purge from within ourselves? Do you ever have time to just rest and evaluate where you are and where you are going? This week I received a self assessment in my inbox from a dedicated Christian author, Lysa Terkeurst, and I was brave enough to take it. What was even more brave was sitting down with my daughter and having her answer the questions too from her perspective. It was an intimate moment for us where I gave her permission to be truthful with me. I learned a lot in the process. I learned areas in which I need to grow and become a better me. I don’t want to pass through life mediocrely. I want to live life well. I love this passage in Psalm 90:12, “Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” So what do you say about joining me? Let’s gain a heart of wisdom.
This week our family had an appointment we have been dreading. We have been putting it off as long as we could. The history of the past told us that surgery would be in the future for our baby girl. Her daddy remembers the pain all too well because he was born without cartilage in his knees. His love for all sports had to come to a halt at the young age of 13. He underwent major knee surgery and had part of his femur removed to repair the broken knee. He was on crutches for almost 2 years with 6 different casts of all colors and physical therapy daily to build back the muscle he had lost. The doctor told him he would never play sports again, or I should rephrase that to say he “should” never play sports again. He told him if he risked it and played and had one bad hit to the knee it could cause him to be disabled for life. That’s a hard blow for a young boy who loved his sports. That same love and passion lives on in our almost 12 year old daughter. We have watched her since she was three years old be able to use her God given talent to play her sports. It’s been nothing short of amazing to see someone that has never been taught have natural skills and abilities that can only come from above.
Over the past few months we have watched her develop that same pain in her knees. It’s been painful for her and painful for us knowing what could lie ahead. I remember studying a couple of years ago about the power of prayer and asking The Lord to break us free from all of the sin and strongholds that have been passed down from one generation to the next. I don’t know about you, but if my Lord can stop my sin, strongholds and even my genetic flaws from passing on to my children you better believe I am going to petition before Him and ask Him to stop it with me. I continue to pray that prayer over my babies, and I witnessed our God answering that prayer this very week. As we sat in the doctor’s office watching this Pediatric Orthopedic doctor run a series of tests on our Ashley we heard him say some amazing words, “This has nothing to do with her cartilage. She’s in good shape there. She needs to keep playing her game. Sitting it out in front of a tube will only make it worse.” You guys, I was so relieved. She does have exercises and stretches that she is going to have to do in order to strengthen her muscles to train them how to work correctly, but there is nothing genetically wrong with her knees. PRAISE THE LORD!
Please do not underestimate the power in prayer to our most POWERFUL God! There is nothing more than He wants to do for us than break off the ties that bind us and holds us back from becoming the men and women he designed us to be. I LOVE these words in Isaiah that Jesus himself spoke, “He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion – to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor. They will rebuild the ancient ruins and restore the places long devastated; they will renew the ruined cities that have been devastated for generations.”
Today is my last day of my contract for the year. Summer is finally here for me, and the timing literally is perfect. I am worn and tired and have found myself not recognizing the person that I see in the mirror looking back at me. I have not been pleasant to be around. This week I had a heart to heart with God and asked Him to reveal what is wrong with me. Why am I struggling? I found my answer in Philippians 2:14-15:
Sometimes taking a look into the mirror is hard to see, but it is in those honest reflections where we can transform the most. I am grateful that I was brave enough to see what was staring back at me, and I am even more grateful that The Lord was faithful to reveal the truth to me through the reading of His word. He is so very faithful. I adore Him and His timing that today is my last day of work. He is giving me time to rest and rejuvenate my soul, so I can become pure and blameless and shine like the stars in the universe. I plan on spending a lot of time with Him enjoying His creation, writing down my praises and returning to JOY!
I have a beautiful friend from my hometown of Mt. Pleasant, TX that I had the pleasure of meeting up with a few weeks ago. I loved every minute of my time with her. As we were getting ready to say our goodbyes she invited me to come to her car. She opened the back hatch and there was a suitcase that she began to unzip. To my surprise she started handing me four amazing t-shirts. She wanted me and my girls to have them. Boldly on the front it says Jesus is Life with John 14:6 written on the back. “I am the way and the truth and the LIFE.” She has started making simple yet bold shirts to share the GOOD NEWS! I was so excited I had to put it on immediately, and I couldn’t wait to get them back to my girls. I love this woman’s heart for Christ. She is sold out for Him, and she is reaching many for Him far and wide with her t-shirt ministry.
Last Friday the girls and I wore them as we helped deliver Meals on Wheels to our sweet friends on our route that we help with in the summer. I LOVE that every time we rang the doorbell they were greeted with the message that JESUS is LIFE. What if we took that message with us every day? What if it was more than words on a shirt, but it was seen in the smiles on our faces or the way we reach out to others in need. You guys, we have a deeply hurting world in need of the GOOD NEWS. Let’s share the message and bring HOPE to the least, the last and the lost. The victory is for ALL of us! It’s not a secret in how to obtain it, so let’s shout it to the roof tops and help others find their way to Him! He’s coming soon, and He wants to take all of us home!